The Golden Rule is Backwards

We all grew up hearing about the Golden Rule, right? Treat others the way you want to be treated. True, it’s a good way to think about things, but what happens when you treat others better than you treat yourself?

I seem to have a standard for everyone else but myself. I want the best for everyone. Others deserve things that I don’t give myself. I can give compassion and grace over and over to those around me. But what do I give myself? Why do I not deserve the same kindness and gentleness that I believe others have a right to?

A friend came to hang out tonight (and it was so good for the soul!) and at one point said “you would do the same for me.” She wasn’t wrong. I was fighting the idea of her helping me, being generous to me. Because in my mind she owes me nothing. I don’t deserve it. But I would do the same for her in a heartbeat. I don’t do things because people owe me, so why do I keep believing that I need to pay my dues to them?

In my case, I need to remember to treat myself the way I treat everyone else. It’s time to accept that I am as valuable and deserving as they are.

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